Okay, so yhlee
has been diagnosed with Asperger's a few months ago and is feeling a bit *flail* and unsure what to do about it (having not been given much in the way of resources beyond a book aimed at teens).
I know there's a metric fuckton of people on the autistic spectrum on DW, so I wanted to put out a call for people to raise your hands if you're on the spectrum and don't mind talking about it, talk about how finding out about being on the spectrum changed things for you (if it did) and the process of adjusting to a diagnosis, discuss coping strategies, rec books you've found useful, websites, bloggers you follow, people on other platforms, etc..
To get the party started: for me, I think the hugest thing has been having vocabulary and concepts for things I'd never had words for before, and just knowing they're things
sensory overload (and overload in general)
tactile defensiveness and difficulty with proximity (a HUGE issue for me personally)
meltdowns (best analysis I've found of how these happen is in Ross Greene's The Explosive Child
, otherwise known as the book my mother most wishes she'd had during my childhood)
executive function (and lack thereof)
difficulty with change (and usefulness of schedules, predictability)
(also just knowing that even if I was the one who chose to change something in the first place, my brain will default to DIFFERENT BAD WRONG at first and that this doesn't actually mean the thing is necessarily BAD WRONG, I just have to allow myself time to adapt before deciding on mature consideration whether it is in fact BAD WRONG) (here is into-the-weeds
making a social story for themselves: http://into-the-weeds.tumblr.com/post/161276884349/more-my-bed-has-changed-and-that-is-okay-it
stims (stimmmmmmmms) and all the sensory integration toys (weighted blankets have been a gift to my life)
"special interests" (in my head I used to call them my "follies" pre-diagnosis)
Also, while I'm in "ONE OF US, ONE OF US" mode: also one of us is Micah Fletcher, the survivor of the three men stabbed in the Portland attack, the poet who made a video asking for people to re-focus on the girls who were the original targets rather than making a "white savior" narrative centred on the guys who stepped in to defend them. That guy. He's on the spectrum