As Imp said, there's been some well-they're-just-boys sort of defenses floating around, and a hell of a lot of ignoring. And if you're right about the ignoring being a product of fear of being overrun, then that's horribly tragic. (I know of one case where that's certainly true, fuck.) We HAVE to be able to talk about these things. I do understand doing it under flock where one might feel it's easier to be honest, but every other fandom has been able to have this discussion (not without a lot of GAH going on, but they've HAD the discussion). I feel like it's part of the same mechanism--we are so hard on each other, this group-consisting-mostly-of-women, and that hurts.


Ahaha, I know, right?