Thankfully people here have been great, but I'm really sorry you got told off, that is so not on. "I'm not offended so it's okay!" is my least favorite version of derailings ever, I think. I mean the others suck, but seriously? Ugh.

Double standards are pretty much the reason I wrote this post. I WANT to have a serious discussion about sexism in the scene, but as long as women are being taken to task severely for their part in it whereas men get off without so much as a comment, it'll never be a serious discussion. Ever.