(sf_drama will go nuts over anything at all. They get into equally impassioned arguments about milk bags vs. bottles as they do about animal cruelty and child abuse. It's pretty ridiculous.) But I see what you're saying about people using the label 'wank' to dismiss the whole thing as 'just a bunch of oversensitive weirdos bickering about nothing.' And that's potentially even more damaging than them taking a side and arguing it, because if someone's engaged in an argument, you can at least try to show them why they're wrong, whereas if they're just standing over to the side with their fingers in their ears, it's pretty hopeless. (And that makes perfect sense, don't worry.)