the wrong end of the telescope

Of course you can have that. And believe me, I'm still plenty sad and angry and achy for how different the music and the sound and the energy on stage will be without Bob. Maybe I'm just too diplomatic, even when I'm heartbroken. But you'll figure out how you feel about things (I'm still muddling through myself), and then go from there. That's all any of us can really do, isn't it? ♥