I wish we didn't even need to encourage each other, almost. You know what I mean? That it wasn't necessary.
I agree that anger and sticking to the people who don't do this are the best solutions. BMI is a fucking stupid measurement of anything, as is ideal weight--human bodies are so different, there are so many variables to how we're put together that 10 pounds is absolutely nothing, in the greater scheme of things. But I know you know that--it's the part where we have to apply it to ourselves that makes it difficult. And having your father say shit like that certainly doesn't help.
I don't know what to tell you except that there is a way to develop your own self-image and hold on to it despite people being assholes. Beauty isn't about weight. It really, really, really isn't. No matter what people like to claim. And the people who do judge? Their own issues are often through the roof. Even if they never talk about them and pretend they don't exist.
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Date: 2010-04-01 12:11 pm (UTC)I agree that anger and sticking to the people who don't do this are the best solutions. BMI is a fucking stupid measurement of anything, as is ideal weight--human bodies are so different, there are so many variables to how we're put together that 10 pounds is absolutely nothing, in the greater scheme of things. But I know you know that--it's the part where we have to apply it to ourselves that makes it difficult. And having your father say shit like that certainly doesn't help.
I don't know what to tell you except that there is a way to develop your own self-image and hold on to it despite people being assholes. Beauty isn't about weight. It really, really, really isn't. No matter what people like to claim. And the people who do judge? Their own issues are often through the roof. Even if they never talk about them and pretend they don't exist.