and on this day

[harborshore]

I'm Vee. I'm bisexual, I'm pretty queer, I'm a cis-gendered woman who passes for straight much less easily now that I cut my hair off, which is mostly a relief. Mostly.

In my country, I can marry whoever I want. It's not perfect: prejudice exists here too (the racists we just elected to the parliament also believe homosexuality is akin to pedophilia), but I know we're unusual, still. In Serbia, the violent protests against a gay pride parade saw 100 people injured, mostly riot police who were defending the parade. That's unusual, still--it means the authorities were defending them. I don't know how love can ever be seen as a threat, but it is. In many places, they will kill you for coming out.

But as much as I know I'm lucky, I don't want to call it that. The right to love is a right, not a privilege. So on this day, I will tell you that the person I loved the most, the person I thought I would spend the rest of my life with, was a girl. That may make me unusual, but that will never make me worthy of condemnation. That's not how this works. A right, not a privilege.

Happy (Inter)National Coming Out Day, darlings. ♥

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[x_dark_siren_x]

The right to love is a right, not a privilege. Thank you. ♥♥♥

I almost feel like a fraud, sometimes, when I talk about these subjects. But today I talked to my Cultural Theory lecturer - who specialises in gender and sexuality and winds up officials when they ask her if she's a Miss or a Mrs - about the hubris in Marist theory and, separately, Judith Butler, and it's put me in such a good mood. Besides which, some of the people I love most in the world are LGBT, and can't get married in their home country, so doesn't that mean I can talk about it?

Um. That wasn't about you. That was me and my issues. But mostly it was me trying to say I love that there is a day like this, and that I love you. ♥

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I think it's even more important that straight people talk about it, much like white people have to talk about racism and men have to talk about sexism (in terms of it affecting women): we won't ever get anywhere if the victims of a specific oppression are the only ones bringing it up.