This, yes. I'm thankful that most of the friends I usually hang out with don't feel the need for "I shouldn't..." statements. People making negative comments about what's on other people's plates is something I can't understand at all.
I was actually thinking about this some two weeks ago when a friend asked me if I was coming to eat lunch with them and then before I could answer she jokingly continued with "Sorry, I forgot you live on coffee and air". I could tell she didn't mean any harm by it, but I realised that my best friend often uses statements like that with less sincerely joking tones and guilts me about not eating more. There has been times when I've eaten way more than I wanted to just so I wouldn't be the cause of her getting self-conscious about eating more than I do. (Theoretically I know her issues are her own and I can't help my small appetite, but at the same time I'm protective and want to keep her from hurt.)
Other thing I can't understand are eating disorder speculations. They're stressful, coming from family or friends, especially when I'm so clear about loving food and being comfortable with the any shape my body takes.
Gosh, sorry, I didn't mean to ramble. Anyway, thanks for this post. ♥
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Date: 2010-04-01 11:03 pm (UTC)I was actually thinking about this some two weeks ago when a friend asked me if I was coming to eat lunch with them and then before I could answer she jokingly continued with "Sorry, I forgot you live on coffee and air". I could tell she didn't mean any harm by it, but I realised that my best friend often uses statements like that with less sincerely joking tones and guilts me about not eating more. There has been times when I've eaten way more than I wanted to just so I wouldn't be the cause of her getting self-conscious about eating more than I do. (Theoretically I know her issues are her own and I can't help my small appetite, but at the same time I'm protective and want to keep her from hurt.)
Other thing I can't understand are eating disorder speculations. They're stressful, coming from family or friends, especially when I'm so clear about loving food and being comfortable with the any shape my body takes.
Gosh, sorry, I didn't mean to ramble. Anyway, thanks for this post. ♥