stay still and breathe

[harborshore]

So there's something I can say now that I couldn't say before this weekend. It was good to be up here, good to get time to think, and now I just have a tiny thing I'd like to ask for, on behalf of myself and a lot of others who are hurt and sad and bewildered by the events of the last few days.

In order to do this, I would like to propose a thought experiment.

Imagine, for example, that it was Frank who had left MCR, mostly without an explanation. And then imagine that Leathermouth didn't exist, and Skeleton Crew was run by someone entirely different, so you weren't exactly sure what was going to happen to him. Now ponder what your reaction might be like, and that's probably pretty close to how some of us are feeling.

And I'm saying this because I'm trying to explain what it was like for us to find out that rumor was real. Emotional reactions aren't necessarily logical, and they're not necessarily fair, but they are what they are. The thing is, we think it's wonderful that you guys are able to be sad but calm, excited about the record and supportive of the band (I really do mean that), but we're not there yet. We need some time to be sad and we need some time to be angry and to ache for the music that will be without someone whose influence on the sound we really loved, before we can figure out how we feel about everything else. I trust we can have that, yeah?

So much love, dearlings.

Comments

[harborshore.livejournal.com]

Ah, I just try my poor best, you know? ♥

[t-vo0810.livejournal.com]

I was devestated with I heard the news about Bob. And I was worse when I thought alot of people were going to leave bandom in response (I am mostly a lurker- I am working on changing that tho. I have very much enjoyed several of your fics!). I am heartened and relieved to see that people mostly just need time and space- just like you said. I completely respect that people need to do what is best for themselves and if they need a break or don't want to participate in bandom anymore because of the loss of Bob, I get it. (My brain is still kind of refusing to accept the whole situtation.) I am glad that you are still around and trying and I wanted to offer my support even tho I haven't commented here before. /hugs/ I am grateful to posts like these that help me feel better by sharing the grief without blame. So thanks for that. I am send you lots of good vibes and hugs to feel better. <3

[harborshore.livejournal.com]

I completely respect that people need to do what is best for themselves and if they need a break or don't want to participate in bandom anymore because of the loss of Bob, I get it. That is an awesome (and helpful) standpoint to take, thank you bb. ♥